When visiting New England, it is common to see long rock walls that wind their way out of sight into the trees. The walls appear ancient, and they are. Built by original New England settlers, they were rocks pulled from the earth by farmers so they could plant crops after the land had been cleared of trees.
At first they piled the rocks, thinking that once the rocks were removed, there'd be no more rocks. But each spring the tilled soil would freeze and then thaw, pushing up new rocks. These rocks became so numerous over time, the farmers started putting them to use building walls to border their property.
Our familiar stories of why we can't have the life and business we want is like these rocks. After you've cleared the land of "shoulds" (trees) and removed fears (rocks), the work of creating a compelling future (crops) becomes rewarding and bountiful. But we're caught by surprise when our fears return. "Hey Wait!" we say, "I already got rid of those!" "These look like the rocks I've seen before!"
However, it is the tilling, planting and harvesting of the earth that drives up the rocks. Designing a compelling future will address some fears, stops, and preconceived limitations. And as you take action to build your future, fears, stops and limitations will surface again from time to time as you expand into the future. We could spend a lifetime examining these fears and wondering why they keep coming up, expecting that some day they'll go away. Or we could address them, knowing that they'll come up again from time to time and get back to farming.
Fears lose their significance and impact when addressed directly and consistently, they become part of the landscape but not the crop you are harvesting. You will always have rocks in your field. Choose an exciting crop to harvest, knowing that rocks will emerge as part of the process. It’s the difference between being Farmer with an amazing crop who consistently clear rocks from their field, or a rock gardener with an unchanging landscaping of more of the same.